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让自己变得更强大,是获得公平的唯一途径

越强大,也越公平。

01

大学期间,小夏找了份家教兼职,给正在念小学的小朋友牛牛补习功课。

因为这学期小夏的事情比较多,就把这份兼职转给了室友佳佳。

佳佳给牛牛补习了两个月之后,牛牛的成绩有了明显的进步,分数从原本的总在70分左右徘徊,进步到了85分。牛牛的妈妈很开心,提高了给佳佳的补课费,从原来的补习一次100元,提高到了130元。

小夏知道后有些生气,直呼不公平。她气呼呼地找到了牛牛的妈妈,问道:“阿姨,为什么我补课的时候每次只有100元,佳佳补课却有130元?这不公平。”。

牛牛的妈妈听完之后,笑了笑,心平气和地说道:“虽然你每次补课的时间和佳佳一样长,但是你的讲课能力没有佳佳好。每次你讲完知识点之后,牛牛还不是很理解,课后总是拿着作业跑来问我,要我重新给他讲一遍。

而且,你在给牛牛检查作业的时候,也不是特别仔细。有些错误都没有检查出来,每次老师把批改完的作业发下来,作业上还有许多红圈圈标记出来的错误。

而佳佳总能把知识点讲得浅显易懂,牛牛听完之后都能够理解知识点,顺利地把题目做出来。她检查作业也特别仔细,漏写了一个小数点,她都能发现。每次经过她的检查,牛牛把订正完的作业交上去,都是全对。

佳佳补习的效果比你好,牛牛的考试成绩也有了明显的提高,她值得更高的报酬。”

你自认为付出的和别人一样多,获得的回报比别人少,是不公平。但其实你的付出远没有比别人多,带来的效益也远没有比别人好。

其实牛牛的妈妈很公平,佳佳的讲课能力更好,得到的报酬就更好;小夏的讲课能力稍差,得到的报酬也较低。

其实这个世界很公平。你不够强大,不能提供更好的服务,不能带来很好的效益,获得的回报就少;你足够强大,能够提供更好的服务,能够带来更好的效益,获得的回报就多。

2

上大学的时候,课程不是学校安排的,而是通过我们自己选课来确定的。

那时候,选课的优先顺序是按照成绩来的。

成绩越好的同学,就越有优先选择权。

有一天,小左跟我抱怨道:“学校的选课制度真不公平。那些好课都被学习成绩好的同学给选走了。我们只能选他们挑剩下的。剩下的课,任课老师的知名度都不高,而且上课时间也不太合适。”

我说:“其实这很公平。那些成绩好的同学,在学习上比我们花了更多的时间,下了更多的功夫。他们靠着努力为自己赢来了更好的机会,他们值得拥有优先选择权。”

古龙曾经说过:“每个人站着的地方,本来都是平等的,只看你肯不肯往上爬。你若站在那里乘风凉,看着别人爬得满头大汗。别人爬上去之后,再说这个世界不平等、不公平,那才是真的不公平。”

越努力、越优秀、越强大的人,就越能够拥有优先选择权。如果你说那些拼尽全力奋斗的人,获得了更好的机会是不公平,那才是真的不公平。

当你不够强大的时候,争取不到更多的机会和更多的资源,你就会认为这个世界不公平;而当你变得强大的时候,能够争取到更多的机会和更好的资源,你就会认为这个世界是公平的。

其实问题的本质不在于这个世界不公平,而是你不够强大。

机会和资源本身就会向更有的能力的人倾斜。你越强大,这个世界就越公平。

3

楠楠和小颖最近都在写自媒体的文章,并且向同一个公众号投稿。

聊天时,楠楠说:“这个公众号的编辑好高冷啊,过了一星期,还不回复我的消息。”

小颖听了有些诧异,说道:“不会啊。我有一篇文章被录用了,编辑昨天还在和我探讨文章的事情呢。”

楠楠听完嘟起了嘴,不开心地说道:“真不公平。为什么给你回消息,却不给我回消息?”

答案很简单,小颖的文章被录用了,而楠楠没有。

其实这很公平,大家都更愿意把时间花在更有价值的事情上。

公众号的编辑每天都要收到上百篇文章的投稿。光是阅读这些文章,就要花费不少的时间。如果对被拒稿的文章一 一回复,只会影响他们审稿的速度,严重拖慢他们的进度。

对于公众号的编辑而言,他们主要的任务,就是选出合适的稿子。毕竟时间和精力有限,他们不会在被拒稿的文章上花费太多时间,更不会和被拒稿的作者做过多的交流。

就像二八定律里说的,人们会把80%的时间用在那20%最重要的事情上。对于公众号的编辑来说,选出合适的稿子,就是那20%重要的事情,而回复被拒稿的作者,就是那80%不太重要的事情。

工作越忙的人,越是在乎时间的投入产出比。因为他们的时间和精力有限,他们更愿意把时间花费在那些对自己来说,投入产出比更大的事情上。

对方搭理别人而不搭理你,你会觉得不公平,但其实本质是因为你不够强大,不能给对方提供足够的价值,对方自然不愿意在你身上花过多的时间。

4

这世界上本来就没有绝对的公平,想要公平,就要强大。永远不要寄希望于别人给你公平,只有自己,才能给自己带来公平,前提是,你已经拥有足够的实力。

其实,这个世界很公平。你处在什么样的层级,就会拥有什么样的资源。如果你处在金字塔的底端,相应的,你就无法拥有更多的话语权,只有底端的机会和底端的资源。

如果你处在金字塔的顶端,相应的,你就能够拥有更多的话语权,获得顶端的机会和资源。

俞敏洪曾经说过:“你不努力,永远不会有人对你公平。只有你努力了,有了资源,有了话语权以后,才可能为自己争取公平的机会。”

所以,让自己变得更强大,是获得公平的唯一途径。

-END-

原题目:你越强大,世界就越公平

作者简介:夕夕酱,手拿枸杞保温杯的95后老阿姨,把道理讲得通透,把干货讲得有趣。公众号:夕夕酱(ID:ccjiang95)。

英文版:

Let oneself become more powerful, it is the only way that wins fairness

More powerful, fairer also.

01

During the university, xiaoxia looked for portion family education to hold two or more posts concurrently, give the child that attending elementary school assignment of bovine ox take lessons after school.

Because this semester is small summerly business is more, turn this part-time job to roommate beautiful.

Fine fine gives Niu Niu take lessons after school or work after two months, niu Niu"s achievement had apparent progress, mark from originally always wander in 70 minutes or so, progress arrived 85 minutes. Niu Niu"s mom is very happy, rose to give beautiful fine make up a missed lesson cost, the take lessons after school from before 100 yuan, raised 130 yuan.

Some are angry after Xiaoxia knows, breathe out continuously inequitable. The ground found her in a huff Niu Niu"s mom, ask: “ aunt, why are there 100 yuan only every time when I make up a missed lesson, does fine fine make up a missed lesson to have 130 yuan however? This is inequitable. ” .

After Niu Niu"s mom listens, laugh, calm say: Although “ grows like the time that you make up a missed lesson every time and fine fine, but your lecture ability is good without fine fine. Every time after you tell knowledge to nod, niu Niu still is not very understand, class hind always is taking exercise to run to ask me, want me to be told to him afresh.

And, when you are checking work to Niu Niu, also not be particularly careful. Some mistakes come out without the examination, every time the teacher comes down the exercise hair that corrects, what there still are a lot of red signs that encircle a circle to come out on exercise is wrong.

And fine fine always can explain intellectual drop easy to read and understandly understand easily, knowledge can understand to nod after Niu Niu listens, become the subject smoothly. Her examination work is particularly careful also, leakage wrote decimally, she can discover. Pass her inspection every time, the exercise that Niu Niu is over emend is given in, it is completely right.

The effect of fine fine take lessons after school is better than you, exam achievement of Niu Niu also had apparent raising, she merits higher pay. ”

You are mixed from what think to pay others is euqally much, acquisition get one"s own back is less than others, it is inequitable. But actually your pay far did not compare others much, brought benefit is far also it is good to did not compare others.

Niu Niu"s mom is very actually fair, the lecture ability of fine fine is better, gotten pay is differred a bit with respect to the lecture ability of better; Xiaoxia, gotten pay is inferior also.

This world is very actually fair. You are not quite powerful, cannot provide better service, cannot bring very good benefit, acquisition get one"s own back is little; You are enough and powerful, can provide better service, can bring better benefit, acquisition get one"s own back is much.

2

When attending a college, course is not school arrangement, choose a class to decide through ourselves however.

Await in those days, the priority that chooses a course comes according to achievement.

Achievement jumps over good fellow student, have first option more.

One day, xiaozun complains with me: The system choosing a course of “ school is really unfair. Those good subjects are given to be chosen by the fellow student with study good result. We can choose them to carry only remain. The subject that remain, those who hold the post of class teacher is famous degree not tall, and schooltime is not quite appropriate also. ”

I say: “ this is very actually fair. The fellow student with those good achievement, more time were spent than us on study, made great efforts. They are recumbent gain the chance with came better for oneself hard, they are worth to have first option. ”

Gulong once had said: “ the place that everybody is standing, it is equal originally, see you only upgrade climbs Kenbuken. If you stand over to multiply cool, look at others to climb sweatingly. After others is mounted, say this world imparity, inequity again, that ability is inequitable really. ”

Jump over effort, more outstanding, more powerful person, can have first option more. The person that if you say those going all out to do one"s best,struggles, obtaining better chance is inequitable, that ability is inequitable really.

When you are not quite powerful, do not strive for more opportunities and more resource, you can think this world is inequitable; and when you become powerful, can strive for more opportunities and better resource, you can think this world is fair.

Actually the essence of the problem does not depend on this world inequity, however you are not quite powerful.

Opportunity and resource itself are met to more the person of some ability tilts. You are more powerful, this world is fairer.

3

Nan Nan He Xiaoying is being written from the article of media recently, and to same a public date contribute.

When chatting, nan Nan says: “ the editor good Gao Leng of this public date, passed one week, still do not reply my message. ”

Small clever listened to some to be surprised, say: “ won"t ah. I have an implied meaning by employ, the editor still was discussing the issue of the article with me yesterday. ”

Nan Nan listens toot had the mouth, do not open say of a person"s mind: “ is really inequitable. Why to answer a message to you, do not answer a message to me however? ”

The answer is very simple, small clever article by employ, and Nan Nan is done not have.

This is very actually fair, everybody is willing to spend time on more valuable business more.

The editor of public date should receive the submit a piece of writing for publication of about a hundred article everyday. Light is to read these articles, be about to spend not little time. If be opposite,the article that is stalked of grain by refus replies, can affect the rate that they go over a manuscript or draft only, procrastinate badly slow their plan.

To the editor of public date, their main task, single out right idea namely. After all time and energy are finite, they won"t spend too much time on the article that is stalked of grain by refus, won"t make overmuch communication with the author that is stalked of grain by refus more.

Resemble what say in 28 law, people can use the time of 80% on that 20% the most important things. To the editor of public date, single out right idea, it is that 20% important things, and the author that the reply is stalked of grain by refus, it is that 80% not quite important things.

The job jumps over busy person, the investment that cares about time the more yields than. Because their time and energy are finite, they are willing to be in time expenses those is opposite more for oneself, investment yields to go up than larger issue.

The other side responds others and do not respond you, you can feel inequitable, but because you are not quite powerful,be constitutionally actually, cannot offer enough value to the other side, nature of the other side is not willing to spend overmuch time on your body.

4

There is sheer fairness originally on this world, want fairness, be about powerful. Do not send a hope to give you fairness at others forever, have oneself only, ability brings fairness to oneself, premise is, you had had enough actual strength.

Actually, this world is very fair. The your department is in what kind of layer class, can have what kind of resource. If the your department is carried in the bottom of pyramid, corresponding, you cannot have more speech to counterpoise, the chance that only the bottom carries and the resource that the bottom carries.

If you lie the top of pyramid, corresponding, you can have more speech to counterpoise, obtain topmost opportunity and resource.

Yu Min big once had said: “ you do not try hard, forever won"t somebody is fair to you. Only you tried hard, had resource, after having speech to counterpoise, just strive for fair chance possibly for oneself. ”

So, let oneself become more powerful, it is the only way that wins fairness.

- END-

Original title: You are more powerful, the world is fairer

Author brief introduction: Evening night sauce, the hand takes medlar vacuum cup 95 hind old aunt, tell the truth so that connect fully, say the dried food interestingly. Public date: Evening night sauce (ID:cCjiang95) .

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