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要和比你努力的人在一起

都说要想要进步,一定要迈出自己的舒适圈。

舒适圈之所以舒适,就是因为大家都一样,你好我好大家好,每个人的水平差不多,自然会有很多共同的语言,如果你稍微有所警觉,想要迈出一步,肯定同伴们就会看你是个另类,有时更会迫不急待地把你又拉回来。

可能你还想着原来还是朋友最好啊,殊不知,我们已经离自己的进步越来越远了。

1、要迈出舒适圈

以前的同事丽最近和我通电话,她说不想在老家待了,可能过段时间会来上海继续找工作,让我帮她留意着需要招人的单位。

丽比我小几岁,毕业于北京的一所一本院校,当时在北京的一家公司工作了一两年就被父母叫了回去,她本来学习勤奋、又能吃苦、手脚也麻利,如果继续干,说不定还是很有出息的。

可那时乖巧听话的她不想父母伤心,就听从了父母的安排。

但回去后,虽说安稳,也在父母身边,可总觉得每天的时间浪费太多。

她工作轻闲,薪水虽稳定,但若想赚多点也不可能,周围的朋友们一个个天天下班就约她逛街打麻将,她要是去了觉得这么多时间浪费了太可惜,不去吧,朋友们又说她另类。

最近,看到好多一线城市单位在招聘,她的要求很符合条件,于是就决定来了。

她说:“她宁可当凤尾,也不想当鸡头”。

其实这句话说的就是要到凤凰中去,即使当不了凤头也没关系,岂码环境对于自身进步是很有利的,在鸡群中就是再努力哪怕当上了头也成不了凤凰。

2、到优秀的人群中去

在《我不惧怕成为这样强硬的姑娘》这本书中,刘媛媛就说:

“我喜欢到竞争激烈的地方去,喜欢跟比我更努力的人在一起并且享受那种压迫感,这样才能更大限度地激发潜能,如果发现自己总是跟一群令我觉得舒服的朋友在一起,心里反而要警惕一下,自己最近是不是没有任何一点进步?”

这也让我想到了自己的亲身体会。

以前我和很多书评写作者在一起就会感觉差他们太多,同样一篇书评,别人写得那么好,自己怎么写的那么差,通过不断地学习、跟进,稍微有点进步了,后来成为富兰克林读书俱乐部的签约作者,更是让我不敢放松、不断精进。

第一次加入签约作者群时,就被吓了一跳,里面有出过很多书的青年作家,有随便一写就能上人民日报的新生代作者,也有一个月除了工作、讲课还能拿到稿费之王的拼命三郎,我在这些大咖面前简直就是个小白。

自己只好每天默默努力,少说多做认真写,向他们多学习。

3、默默努力学习

我以前写的大多都是书评,和平台要求的风格还有些差距,于是我就想办法多阅读、多找素材、多向那些努力上进的优秀作者学习。

记得第一次交稿时,内容总监说不行,要修改。

修改好了交上去,她又说还不行;

第三稿、第四稿、直到修改了五、六稿,甚至七、八稿才通过。

那时被虐得很惨,但是回头看自己的文章水平还是有所进步的。

如果当时不和这些优秀努力的人在一起,都不知道自己的文笔有多烂。

人就是在这样的环境中一点点成长起来的。

和她们在一起学到的知识将是我人生中的一笔巨大财富。

最近写的一些稿件给编辑审核时,她们都说我比以前有进步了,甚至有几次都是不用怎么修改,一遍就过稿的。

如果当时没有这些努力的同行者,又怎么会有我现在的点滴进步。

4、和努力者前行

我们真正的敌人,是生活的考验,是自己的懒散,并不是说要比周围所有人都强都棒,才能成为人生的赢家,而是要向那些比你强比你棒的人学习,找到对付自己人生的最佳状态。

有句话说得好:

普通人的圈子,谈论的是闲事,赚的是工资,想的是明天;

中产的圈子,谈论的是项目,赚的是利润,想的是下一年;

富豪的圈子,谈论的是机会,赚的是财富,想到的是未来和保障。

我们要多和比自己努力优秀的人在一起,这样才能一步步长成自己喜欢的样子。

作者:刘媛媛,北京大学法律硕士、《超级演说家》全国总冠军,现任媛创文化传媒有限公司CEO,她的演讲代表作品有《寒门贵子》、《年轻人改变世界》等。

英文版:

Want and be together than the person that you try hard

Say to want to want to progress, must step oneself comfortable group.

Comfortable circle comfortable, because everybody is same,be, hello I am good everybody is good, the level of everybody is about the same, natural meeting has a lot of common languages, if you a little somewhat alert, want to step one pace, affirmative companions can see you is additional kind, sometimes more meeting ground of unable to hold oneself back pulls you again.

May you still think the move is original or the friend is best, little imagine, we had left our progress further and further.

1, Want to step comfortable group

The colleague previously beautiful understand a telephone call with me recently, she says to did not want to be waited for in native place, the likelihood crosses paragraph of time to be able to come to Shanghai continue to apply for a job, let me help she is advertent need enrol the person"s unit.

Beautiful smaller than me a few years old, be graduated from school of a of Beijing one this academy, a company that is in Beijing at that time worked 9 years to be called by parents, she learns originally assiduous, can bear hardships again, hands or feet is deft also, if continue to work, still perhaps have prospect very much.

But clever in those days she obedient does not think parents is sad, complied with parental arrangement.

But after going back, though smooth and steady, also be beside parents, always can feel everyday time is wasteful and too much.

Her work small spare time, although pay is stable, but if want to gain much point impossible also, class of each day the world makes an appointment with the friends all round she shops dozen of mahjong, if she went feeling so much time was wasted too regrettablly, do not go, friends say she is additional again kind.

Recently, see unit of city of a lot of a gleam of is in invite applications for a job, her requirement very accord with a condition, came with respect to the decision then.

She says: She would rather become “ phoenix end, also do not want to become gallinaceous head ” .

What actually this word says is to want to go in phoenix, even when not phoenix head is irrespective also, piling up an environment to progress to oneself is very advantageous, in chicken group in even if become,went up hard again namely the head also cannot become phoenix.

2, Go in outstanding crowd

In " I am fear of become such strong girls " in this book, liu Yuanyuan says:

I like “ to go to the place with intense competition, like to follow than me more the person of effort is together and enjoy the sort of oppressive feeling, bigger limit ground arouses such ability potential, if discover oneself always follow a flock of friends that make me feel comfortable to be together, vigilance wants instead in the heart, don"t oneself have any a bit progress recently? ”

This also let me think of this personal experience.

The person that I and very much book review are composed previously is together to be able to feel poor they are too much, same a book review, others is written so well, what how oneself write is so poor, through learning be used to, follow-up ceaselessly, progressed a bit a little, become rich Lan Kelin to read later the autograph of the club makes an appointment with an author, it is to let me dare be not loosened more, ceaseless essence is entered.

Join an autograph to make an appointment with an author for the first time group when, was frightened jump, there is the young writer that has given a lot of books inside, have write casually can go up the Neozoic author of the People"s Daily, of the king that also a month still can take contribution fee besides the job, lecture desperately 3 man, I am a Xiaobai simply before these big Ga.

Oneself are forced to try hard silently everyday, say less to be done more write seriously, learn more to them.

3, Learn silently hard

Write before me it is book review mostly, the style that asks with platform returns some difference, then I think method is read more, search more material, much to those effort aspirant outstanding author learns.

When remembering making draft for the first time, content chief inspector says to be no good, want to revise.

Had revised give in, she says to still be no good again;

The 3rd draft, the 4th draft, until revised 5, 6 draft, even 7, 8 draft just are passed.

Be gotten by cruel in those days very miserable, but look round oneself article level still progresses somewhat.

If be on bad terms at that time,the person of these outstanding effort is together, the style of writing that does not know oneself has many to rot.

The person grows in the little in such environment namely those who rise.

The knowledge that acquires together with them will be the brushstroke in my life enormous wealth.

When a few manuscripts that write recently give an editor examine and verify, they say to there is progress before my comparing, having a few times even is how need not revise, one stalk of grain too.

If there is not the person travel together of these efforts at that time, how can have my present a bit progress again.

4, With the travel before the person that try hard

Our real enemy, it is the test of the life, be oneself is slack, not be to say to want to compare all round everybody is strong marvellous, ability becomes those who be life to win the home, should compare your good person study more by force than you to those however, find the groove that copes with people on one"s own side to be born.

A word says well:

The circle of Everyman, those who talk about is other people"s business, those who earn is salary, those who want will be tomorrow;

The circle that produces in, those who talk about is a project, those who earn is profit, those who want is below one year;

The circle of plute, those who talk about is an opportunity, those who earn is fortune, those who think of is future and safeguard.

We should be mixed more than oneself the person with outstanding effort is together, such ability blossom step by step the look that oneself like.

Author: Liu Yuanyuan, master of Beijing University law, " super oratorical " countrywide total champion, currently hold the post ofYuan to achieve CEO of culture medium limited company, her speech has on behalf of work " cold Men Guizi " , " the youth changes the world " etc.

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